Can You Really Trust Your Friends?

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“Life is too short to spend your precious time trying to convince a person who
wants to live in gloom and doom otherwise.”
 – Zig Ziglar

A friend from the past emailed me after receiving my latest blog. That brought back pleasant memories and the statement, “People come into your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime.”

This person had no idea how much her friendship meant to me during a time in my life when my heart was breaking into so many pieces. It was taking all I had, to simply hold on. Her friendship was like glue that held me together. She accepted me for who I was and did not judge me for my choices; we met regularly; she encouraged, supported and challenged me. Her friendship was so vital and valuable, as I fought to move forward, stay positive and remain rational.

On the other hand, some friends have left me feeling emotionally deflated, after being besieged by their complaints, criticism and gossip about what others in their life were doing. We don’t need friends who tend to find only fault with the world.

Good friends are good for our health. Friendship has been shown to have a bigger impact on our psychological well-being than family relationships. According to the Mayo Clinic, strong friendships protect us against stress and many forms of mental illness. Dr. Gerald Ellison, Director of Psychoneuroimmunology at Cancer Treatment Centres of America in Oklahoma states, “Friends keep us from becoming isolated and lonely; they offer encouragement and support; and they keep our thinking in line with the real world.”

Who do you call your friend?

Think about the friends you have in your life. Can you trust the people you call friends? Do they lift your mood and ease your troubles? Do they accept, encourage and challenge you? Or do you feel down and out after spending time with them? Clearly, not all friendships are good for your health and well-being.

To learn more about picking your friends wisely read Chapter Six in my book GUTS, Get Uncomfortable To Succeed – Embracing, Health, Balance and Abundance. Order your signed copy today at


Betty Franklin
Betty Franklin
Betty Franklin is a Mental Fitness & Wellbeing Expert. After a 30-year career working on the frontlines of healthcare, supporting and caring for people dealing with illness and disease, she transitioned her nursing career outside the institutional setting to help people stay healthy and live fuller, more vibrant lives. She does this through one-on-one coaching, delivering powerful seminars and her book called G.U.T.S. - Get Uncomfortable To Succeed, Embracing Health, Balance and Abundance. With a practical, well-rounded approach to mental and physical wellbeing, Betty's seminars and coaching program provide clients with clarity, direction and support to enhance their health and life. She simplifies what you need and want, how you can attain it, and helps you understand what's holding you back. People who work with Betty notice a clearer perspective emerging as they learn and grow, and as they stay accountable. Ultimately, they reach where they want to be faster, and with greater ease.